Well, he is here now and we are glad! Although things didn't go as planned, I am so pleased with how things turned out! NOTE: This is long, you have been warned! Ha!
To start, he came early, about 3 weeks early. That's a first with me. My babies don't come early. To refresh you. We have 6 kids, Max is our 7th. First baby was a hospital birth (not a good experience) and the other 5 were all homebirths with wonderful experiences. I usually go right up to 40 weeks, so I was surprised.
For moms with nausea, here is a testimonial from a mom on the Hypnobabies Moms Forum.
I did buy this early in my pregnancy and it worked GREAT. I still have the skills…and I’ve had my baby already. I’d definitely use it again! It worked well after listening only once or twice. I continued to listen every few days when nausea was the strongest, then just tapered off and used the skills it taught.
Awesome! The success I had with it was part of what strengthened my confidence in the Hypnobabies program.
Originally posted on May 31, 2008
I was rather skeptical at first that I could really change my view of natural and normal childbirth, but I figured, what I have I got to lose? I ordered my Hypnobabies around 30 weeks and was able to start before 31 weeks. I really took every word of the Hypnosis suggestions to heart that this will work for me and my baby just how it is meant to. I dismissed every thought of negativity from my mind, ignored my husband’s reservations of the program, and blew off any pesimism (sp?) from anyone else.
I really got into my Affirmations and focused on listening and relaxing through my scripts. I made sure that I didn’t focus on *whether or not this was working* just told myself it was!
I haven’t posted at all on the Moms Forum, but I did the home study Hypnobabies course and had a great birthing experience that I thought others might find helpful. I should probably say that I am about the least likely person in the world to do natural childbirth. I have a degree in clinical pharmacy and am usually all about adequate pain relief! But after the birth of my first 2 children with epidurals that really didn’t help, I knew there must be a better way. So here goes…..
Pressure waves started at 12:45 a.m. after I’d been asleep for about 2 hours. They were approximately 10 min. apart. I stayed very comfortable and relaxed. Sat on my birth ball, listened to birthing day affirmations. Got up about an hour or so later and started to pick up the family room and kitchen (I wanted the house to be clean since I was pretty sure this was the real deal, and my husband had had football party the night before leaving out dirty dishes, etc.:) I’d turn my light switch to off when I had a wave, but felt totally fine and comfortable in between. Around 3:30 I had my husband call our babysitter who came right over. I laid on the bed giving her the final instructions on getting our daughter on the bus, what to feed the kids for breakfast, etc. while my husband finished packing the hospital bag. I would stop talking during a wave, focus, enter hypnosis and breathe very deeply. She was amazed to watch how relaxed I could go!
We arrived at the hospital around 4:30 a.m. I was dilated to 6-7 and still remaining quite comfortable in between waves. We gave the staff our birthing plan and they were very respectful. I put in the Early First Stage CD and it was extremely helpful! I spent another half hour or so with the waves intensifying and then my doctor came in and I was an 8-9 cm.
I woke up at 5am that morning thinking "here we go again, another false alarm." I had been having prodromal labor for a few weeks at this point and was getting frustrated and emotional by it. I just wanted things to be real already! I got up and went to the bathroom.
Things felt a little different but I wasn't going to put any merit to it yet. I went back to bed but couldn't get comfortable so I decided to take a bath. It didn't go away. Infact it became more wonderfully intense, 5 mins apart suddenly became 2 mins apart. Could this seriously be it?? My mom had flown in from Texas a week or so prior when we thought things were really going. She was asleep in my son's room, so I let her know that I "thought" I may actually be in labor, but that she could stay asleep longer until I figured it out. I knew if I was, I wanted to eat now instead of later, so I went downstairs and ate breakfast and drank some red raspberry leaf tea. 2 mins apart stayed 2 mins apart for over an hour so I just decided to call my midwife. Midwife Amy was on call that day and she's an hour away so she just decided to start her trip over, because she'd rather go and be here for a birth that we had all decided would be relatively quick, then not leave and miss the whole thing!
I went ahead and called my support team, my friend Maria and my doula Emily and they headed over as well. I woke up mom and told her things were "on" but I still wasn't positive that this was "it" and needed lots of encouragement. I had been disappointed by 2 – 3 min apart waves being nothing at all several times before. But thankfully things became more intense. Things were going great. Intense, powerful, I was vocalizing and laughing my way through some of them. There's a film called "orgasmic birth" and that's what I felt almost. Wonderful, no pain at all. Discomfort at times but that was easily dealt with by getting on my hands and knees, rocking and rotating my hips and of course using my Hypnobabies, but what's so wonderful is after practicing for so long and for so often I didn't feel the need yet to recite to myself my peace cue, I just knew things were working and they were!
I was very aware during this birth and very active. I have video of me laughing through birthing waves and enjoying them. My friend Maria was laughing right along with me from behind the camera and you can see it shaking from it. Very different from my son's birth to which I chose to rest and sleep as much as possible. Even though I had eaten eggs and toast earlier that morning, my mom was making pancakes for everybody and it smelled so good. So I ate! And I drank more tea and loots of ice water… with lots of ICE. More ICE!
Let me start by saying thank you to the Moms Forum. I feel like I learned so much from you. I read the posts faithfully right up until my daughter’s birth. I didn’t post at all, but still feel like I ‘know’ most of you.
I also have to admit that I was a horrible student. I rarely practiced my finger drop technique and I hated being ‘off’ ever. I intentionally only ever listened to the CD’s in my sleep after the first time. I was not comfortable in off, so I would program my iPod to play the pregnancy affirmations and then whatever script I was supposed to listen to. Then I would fall asleep during the affirmations and stay asleep through the script. Well guess what. It totally worked. I had such a peaceful, easy birthing time. I am so grateful to hypnobabies for making me believe this was possible.
I am not sure when her birthing time actually began. I had been having contractions for about two months, lol. But seriously, over the past few weeks, almost every night I would have some pressure waves. I think that over time I just began to anticipate them and know that they were not the real thing.
I just wanted to say what an awesome program Hypnobabies is – and encourage anyone trying it for the first time. I haven’t posted on the Mom's forum really, though I enjoy reading. So I thought I could share my Hypnobabies journey and maybe help others like you’ve all helped me.
My first, ds, was a typical hospital birth. We took a generic relax and breath type course which did very little to help me during birth. Then a 3 1/2 week early leaking of amniotic fluid sent the doctors into a tizzy. They tried to give me pitocin at the hospital but the rest of my water came out and my birthing waves were suddenly regular and steady. I convinced them to give me an hour to see how I progressed. I went from a 1 to a 4 cm dilation when the nurse came in saying “The Doctor” (a resident I never met) said I needed Pitocin. They bullied me into it, hooked up the IV over my protests, and the next 3 hours were horrible with intense surges that would overlap and continue without any release. The birth went way too fast and I tore severely. I vowed to not be intimidated by a doctor again, and to find some other way to give birth because there had to be a better way.
With dd, I found Marie Mongan’s book and tape and practiced with them. I found the techniques helped, and the first parts of birthing were immensely better than the first time around. But everything sort of “went out the window” when transition hit and I lost control. I was the typical screaming mom you see in the shows.
I decided I was on the right track, but I needed something more specific and directed. The one Mongan script was too generic for me with vague relaxation cues and different colors of mist. I needed something for my mind to focus on – specific details of what I was supposed to be concentrating on during birthing waves.
I searched further and finally found Hypnobabies. I joined the Hypnobabies Moms Forum with all the moms looking for the same thing I was, and found a bunch of script documents. I read those and knew this was exactly what I was looking for. I had my husband read them onto the computer. I listened to them and practiced the last few months of pregnancy.
I was diagnosed with preeclampsia and preterm labor at 31 weeks and was told that I would likely be having my baby within 1-2 weeks at that time. My blood pressure was elevated at my appt. with my midwife, my uric acid was a little high and I had some protein in my urine. I had to transfer from the free standing birthing center with our midwife to an OB/GYN-Dr. Hall and a hospital birth. We were disappointed but wanted what was best for our baby and I so we decided we needed to make the best of the situation. We had appointments with Dr. Hall twice a week to check my blood pressure, labs and monitor our baby on the external monitor. We were very fortunate to have a wonderful Dr. that we both liked and trusted.
My blood pressure was never elevated except for that one time at my appt. with our midwife and my labs stayed pretty close to where they were in the beginning so my preeclampsia never really progressed. Dr. Hall actually sat us down and asked us what we were doing so he could tell his other patients who were diagnosed with preeclampsia. I told him it was my herbal program and the power of the mind (Hypnobabies). The perinatologist-Dr. Grey, had recommended trying to keep me pregnant as long as possible and if I made it to 37 weeks to induce me in order to prevent me from getting any sicker (allowing the preeclampsia to progress) because the worse it gets the harder it is on the baby and me. They said moms with preeclampsia generally don’t tolerate labor very well.
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When my husband and I got pregnant we did extensive research on the having the safest birth possible for both mother and baby. We chose a midwife as our healthcare provider based on exceptional outcomes research. We quickly came to the conclusion that natural birth was what we wanted. Our midwife recommended using Hypnobabies for pain management and we began the extensive self-study course. We practiced everyday and did all the recommended cues and affirmations. We knew we were not ready to have a home birth, but we were apprehensive about birthing in a hospital because of unnecessary medical interventions. Our midwife assured us we would be fine and to put together a Birth Plan.
I am happy to report that I was able to give birth in such a perfect way! The nurses at the hospital were so wonderful, loving and patient. They really facilitated such a spiritual birth for our little one. They were so respectful of our preferences. They used a Doptone instead of the external fetal monitor and allowed her to be placed immediately on my chest when she was born for an hour. She was able to nurse immediately, and they also did all procedures in the room with us. My midwife is truly an angel as well. She knew I desperately wanted to have a natural hypnobirth and she was there and supported me the entire time! Even when I felt like it was going to be impossible, she reminded me that I could do it and to stick with my plan.
I woke up at 1:30am Saturday morning with menstrual-like cramps that started in my back and wrapped around the lower part of my abdomen. They were about 5-10 minutes apart and very regular so I was sure my birthing time had begun. I laid in bed for an hour but I was restless so I decided to start baking brownies for the nursing staff. Our dog came down to see what the commotion was, and then went upstairs to wake my husband.
We went to the hospital around 9:15am once I had been having pressure waves for 1-2 hours and they were 2-3 minutes apart. We called the in-laws to start their journey from Ohio, paged my midwife and called my Mom. We loaded up the car and were on the way to take the dog to doggie day care, I was deep in my hypnotic trance with my headphones on when I noticed blue lights in the rearview mirror. We were being pulled over! My husband jumped out of the car at the red light and motions to the police officer that I am in labor by pointing to his belly. The officer pulled up beside us, took one look at me and asked if we needed a police escort. We thanked him and said we could make it on our own. I was still in trance but I was getting a little uncomfortable and irritated at the disruption.
When we got there, my pressure waves slowed down considerably because I was nervous about being in the hospital. I was only 3cm dilated so my husband and I walked the halls for an hour, bounced on my birthing ball and paced. When my midwife checked me around 1:00pm I was 5-6cm and 100% effaced. I used my hypnosis and was able to stay in trace during most of the dilation. I could hardly feel the pressure waves at all. When I was 7-8cm when my midwife suggested I get in the tub. I was a little reluctant, but I decided to do it and my husband helped me. I was so glad I did because it provided tremendous relief and allowed me to catch my breath.
My husband was so wonderful! He was with me the whole time helping me with my hypnosis ques, bringing me water, snacks and holding my hand while they checked the heartbeat. He didn’t leave my side once, not even go to the bathroom! My mom was there supporting me the entire time as well. Her Lamaze experience definitely came in handy during the pushing phase. I was fully dilated around 5:00pm and tried pushing in several different positions. It was very hot and when my mom asked if she could loosen my gown I grabbed it and tore it off. My modesty went out the window as I was fully concentrated on staying as comfortable as possible.
I was getting frustrated, feeling that I wasn’t making progress and almost came out of my trance. I leaped on to the bed in high position and grabbed the mattress and screamed. My husband and mom came to my rescue quickly and reminded me that I can do this and to RELAX! I agreed and made the conscious decision to continue with the tools I had for hypnosis. Looking back on it, I would guess this would be what they refer to as “transition”.
Finally, I was most comfortable on my side. I tried to push with every pressure wave, but since I was so deep in trance, I could only feel it at its peak and wasn’t able to utilize the full force. With every round of pushing everyone would exclaim “THIS IS IT, PUSH HER OUT!” They got me the mirror and showed me part of her head sticking out. My midwife encouraged me to feel her head as well. I knew I could do this; it was just going to take some time. I had to pace myself. I pushed and pushed and in-between I used my relax cue to catch my breath and took sips of water. It was amazing that I had so much control considering I had no pain medication. My midwife used bottle after bottle of mineral oil to massage and stretch me. We listened to the “Pushing Baby Out” CD it seemed like 100 times and we were all getting annoyed but nobody could reach the CD played to turn it off or change CD’s.
Centimeter-by-centimeter, baby Claire was born at 9:30pm after 4.5 hours of pushing. I didn’t end up with any stitches or episiotomy! I had a very small tear that didn’t even bleed. It was so awesome, as soon as she was born and they placed her on my chest she looked up at me with those big eyes. How amazing! I did it all natural and my baby is so healthy and relaxed as well. She is beautiful and her head was perfectly round despite such a long time in the birth canal. She nursed right away and was very content.
What a spiritual and euphoric experience! We are truly blessed and it was worth all the hard work. It means so much to me that with all the loving support and patience of my midwife, husband and mother, I was able to be empowered to have the perfect natural birth. Later I found out that some of my friends had actually placed a bet that I would end up with an epidural. You can imagine how excited and proud I was to tell them my birth story!!!
Originally posted February 6, 2008
I used hypnosis while having Bryson. He was my 3rd baby and 2nd VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean). I wanted a natural childbirth, but was nervous about the pain. I used Hypnobabies www.hypnobabies.com and had a completely un-medicated AND comfortable birth. It was so empowering.
Originally posted on February 11, 2008
On January 30th, I went to work and for the first time in a couple of months I was actually given something to do. I was thrilled. So, I worked all day and had things partially finished when it was time for me to go home. I stopped by my supervisor's office to tell him where I was leaving things because he was concerned I wouldn't be back. I laughed and said, of course I'll be here tomorrow, but here's where I left things. Turns out he was right and I was wrong, but I wouldn't realize that for almost 12 more hours.
So, our evening was normal. We had dinner and Tom and I got our girls down to bed. I did my usual bedtime ritual of putting on my iPod and listening to my scripts and affirmations at bedtime. I even did my usual false start trips to the bathroom, in center for practice, once my scripts started. Then I fell asleep very easily. Much easier than I had in many weeks.
At 3 AM, I woke up experiencing a much stronger pressure wave than I had so far in this pregnancy. I thought wow that one was pretty serious and then I realized I needed to use the bathroom, so I got up and did that. I came back to bed got comfy and had another pressure wave. I checked the clock it was 3:05. I thought, hmm, 5 minutes since the last one I wonder if this is it. At 3:10, I had another one and using the rudimentary timing that I could do with a digital alarm clock I figured that the waves were approximately a minute long. Since, this was my third baby and baby number two came fairly quickly my doula and I had discussed that I should probably be headed to the hospital when the waves were 5 minutes apart, lasting a minute, for an hour. So, I watched the clock for another 15 minutes and continued in that same pattern so I finally woke up Tom. I told him that I thought today would be a good day to have a baby, and after a second where he registered what I was saying he jumped up and started putting on clothes and making phone calls. In the meantime, I put on my Birthing Day affirmations and got dressed.
Editor's note: This is an email from one of the moms on the Hypnobabies Moms Forum. She gave us permission to share it. We think it is a great example of how educating yourself and being empowered can help shape your birth.
This Hypnobabies Mom's OB had been pressuring her into setting an induction date because of “big baby”. She asked all the moms for ideas and support, did her research and went back to her OB and took charge of the situation. We LOVED her story:
“First off I’d like to say thank you to everybody who gave me advice on my ‘big’ (healthy) baby!"
I had my doctor’s apt. yesterday where we were to discuss my birth plan I put in at my last apt. My doctor had been pressuring me to induce around 38 weeks (pending a u/s) b/c I have been measuring so large. I was very nervous. I made sure I did a fear release before I left and toughened up my BOP. (Bubble of Peace)
When he came in I held up my hand and told him that I wanted to talk before he even said anything. I told him that I know I am his first experience with Hypnobabies and I need him to have an open mind. I explained the program and the power of thinking positively. I told him about people using hypnosis for surgery.
Just thought I’d give the long version of Jonah’s birth story, while I have a few minutes of quiet with all three boys asleep : )!!
On Saturday (the 15th) I awoke around 3 am with pressure waves, which is normally when I wake up and go into birthing time. I got them every 10 minutes, so I figured I’d time them for an hour or so, and see how close they got together before bothering to wake Joe or call the midwives. By 5, they were still 9 minutes apart, which was odd, as I usually progress down to around 4 minutes by then. So, I decided I’d try to go back to sleep, and if they got any closer, then they would wake me up. I couldn’t sleep, though, because I was too excited about it being birthing day:). The kids woke at 7 am after sleeping through the night!! By 7:30am, my pressure waves just suddenly stopped. I couldn’t believe it! So, I went to sleep, and then slept on and off until around 10am. They started again in the afternoon, and then stopped again. Sunday, at 3am, again, I woke with pressure waves. I timed them, and they were 8 minutes apart, so I thought this MUST be it this time. The exact same thing happened. They came, stayed for a few hours, the kids woke, they stopped. They started again in late afternoon (as in the previous day) and by 5pm, I called my midwife, frustrated, and vented that my birthing time was starting and stopping, and asking if I should start trying to purposely get it moving along (by walking, or other methods). She recommended I take some castor oil, and see what happened. What happened was a horrendous snow storm that made it impossible for her to get to me, and other than some terrible diarrhea, nadda happened. She told me to come see her Monday morning, and she’d check me out to see what was up.
Monday morning: woke at 3am…see the trend??! stopped at 7am, luckily, went to see midwife at 11am. She checked me, and I was a ‘very stretchy 5 cm’!!! So it certainly was labour, but just prodromal labour. She tried to give me a stretch and sweep, but said I was too stretchy to do anything with, and as for sweeping, she could feel all around baby’s head, and there was a bulging bag of water. She assumed I’d have my water break in the next 24 hours and would birth within the next 2 days. I was so excited and happy to think it wasn’t all for not: I was half way there already!! : )
I meant to write my birth story a long time ago and with 3 kids well… you know. Anyway, that was me singing on YouTube in the previous post. Our son’s birth went very well. I used Hypnobabies and kept my switch in the center position for a good portion of the labor but still used off quite a bit as well. When I was using the off position everyone thought I was asleep! LOL! And I had some pretty strong rushes like that!
I decided to try singing to see how it would work. I had been to a Barbra Harper birth workshop and she was talking about this Japanese midwife who has all of her clients sing and the wonderful results they have and since I’m a singer and it relaxes me anyway I thought why not!
I had a very fast transition, only about 3 pressure waves and all of a sudden …
When we first saw this video on You Tube we wondered if she had taken Hypnobabies Childbirth Hypnosis classes, because she was so calm and peaceful. So I asked if she did.
This was her response. “Yes, I used a combination of Hypnobabies and just stuff I remembered from Ina Mae’s "Guide to Childbirth" book. It worked quite well for me.“
Originally posted January 17, 2008
I was scheduled for an induction on Friday, December 28th, primarily because I tested + for strep, and since I am allergic to penicillin, I needed 2 doses of antibiotics 8 hours apart. We went to the hospital and started the first dose around 11:30 a.m. They were nice enough to do the IV as a hep-lock so that I was able to wander around after the initial dose. We spent the afternoon eating lunch at the cafeteria (the lady there didn’t believe I was a patient at first, since I was walking around in my normal clothes!), browsing the gift shop, playing cards, and watching TV. I also listened to the Easy First Stage track during the afternoon, hoping to make my contractions a little more consistant.
My MW arrived late in the afternoon, and she checked me for the first time at about 5:30 p.m. I was only dialated to 2 (from one the previous week), so she started a quarter of a pill of cytotec by mouth. That, along with walking, helped start some contractions, but nothing too exciting. At 7:30 p.m. I was due for my second dose of antibiotics, and my MW started pitocin when they re-started my IV. She upped the pit several times over the next couple hours…I was able to stay very relaxed for the first part by watching old episodes of the Office (I love that show!), and I think laughing during labor is a great thing! …
This is my first time posting here, though I’ve been reading a lot and doing the Hypnobabies program since about week 32.
Our little one’s “guess date” was 1/10. We didn’t know her gender, so it was a surprise. As of Saturday (12/29) I was having early contractions – nothing worth timing or writing home about. They lasted off and on all day Sunday and Monday.
Monday night my hubby and I went to a friend’s home for an overnight New Year’s eve party. I was 38w 4d as of yesterday, so my stipulation was that if we went out for NYE, it had to be in the direction of the hospital and I didn’t want to be on the road with all the drunk partiers. Well, this friend lives four blocks from our hospital (as opposed to our 45 minute drive..), so it was ideal.
We got there around 8pm, and by 10pm, I was feeling drowsy. The rest of the folks were playing a card game, which I sat out because I was not feeling smart enough to keep up with basic card game rules
Right after 10 I decided my back needed more support, so I got up to find a couple extra pillows to set behind me. I got the pillows, sat down, and immediately felt like my bladder had released. Fortunately I bounced back up right away (though later I was informed that the couch had formerly belonged to …
I haven’t posted much before but have enjoyed reading the posts. The following story is that of the birth of my 3rd child but 1st Hypnobaby. My first was born vaginally after induction at 42 weeks. I was not aware at the time of the risk of multiple medical interventions and ended up with a terrible spinal headache after a bad epidural. My second was a natural childbirth using the Bradley method. This was a beautiful natural birth but I felt a little left in the dark in regard to relaxation. This time I used Hypnobabies….
I started having pressure waves Thurs night but nicely spaced (20 min apart) and this lasted all night Thurs (not much sleep) and all day Fri. I basically went about my day with my other dds. Fri night, just when I was about to try to rest again, they picked up to 10 min apart then 7 etc.. I labored all night by myself, listening to my Hypnobabies scripts and sitting on my ball. It was very peaceful and exactly how I imagined this stage. At 8:00 am I called my mw to tell her I had been begun my birthing time. I was not sure I wanted to …